It’s hard to count the number of celebrity couples who rushed into marriage then promptly filed for divorce just months later.
But that doesn’t only happen in Hollywood. We all know someone (or have a friend who knows someone) who walked down the aisle only to divorce not long after. What happened, you can’t help but wonder. They divorced so quickly, they had to have had some doubts, some understanding that there were problems in the relationship — and if that’s the case, why did they go forward with the marriage in the first place?
Many short-lived marriages begin because couples assume things will change for the better once they’re wed, says Terri Orbuch, a therapist and author of Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship.
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9. “I was married for almost eight months. We were together for three years or so beforehand. I was going through a lot of problems in my own little world (my close friend/boss of four years dying, my parents splitting up) and we were paying for everything ourselves. I told myself things were wacky because we were both under tons of stress. She lost her job two months after the wedding and refused to look for other work (before, she was making almost twice as much as me per hour). So there I was, trying to support us on $8.75/hour. She always drank a lot, but she started drinking even more. She got mean and nasty and everything just spiraled out of control. She just moved out in April.”
10. “I met my ex through Facebook. He was from Scotland and I’m from California. We were both young (23 at the time) and wanted to carry on our relationship for more than a few weeks at a time. It was expensive to keep flying halfway across the world, so we decided to take the plunge and marry. It wasn’t until after we were married that I found out he thousands of dollars in debt with the Bank of Scotland before he moved here. Not only that, he was spending a lot of time driving around in my car to pick up high school girls while I was working. Of course, as the oblivious and dedicated wife, I didn’t believe when people were telling me he was cheating; even when it came from the women who were sleeping with him. Needless to say, we got a divorce. Pro tip: Don’t marry someone just because they’re from a different country. The novelty wears off after a while.”
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