SPECIAL FROM Next Avenue
By Emily Gurnon
It’s a problem experienced by both men and women, in heterosexual and same-sex relationships: One of you is feeling amorous. The other isn’t.
There may be a longstanding pattern in your relationship or you may take turns being in the mood. Either way, unequal levels of desire can cause difficulties, ranging from feelings of rejection to resentment to anger.
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4. Experiment with toys. Lower blood flow to the genitals, combined with diminished production of both testosterone and estrogen, can make it harder for women to reach orgasm, Schwartz said in a recent article for AARP. Sexual toys like dildos and vibrators can help fix that problem and spice up a couple’s sex play, she said.
5. Consider physical causes. Men should realize that research shows erectile dysfunction may be an early warning sign of heart problems. Talk openly about your doctor to find treatments for both issues if necessary.
For women, menopause and the resulting drop in estrogen can cause vaginal dryness and painful intercourse. There are products and treatments that can help, such as over-the-counter lubricant and prescription estrogen creams.
6. Ask for help. If you and your partner have tried unsuccessfully to have a better sex life, you may need professional help. Schwartz suggests that partners of men frame the idea as “relationship therapy,” rather than “sex therapy,” and present several potential areas to work on, not just your sexual conflicts.
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